self confidence:

Building Confidence is something that comes with practice. When we do something new… or something that we are out of practice in… it doesn’t feel natural and it takes a little while to get into the swing of it.
Our brain works by a neuro-transmitter kind of jumping from one neuron to another. This is how thoughts are created. Most of the time we do things that we’ve done a thousand times before. Driving a car… washing up… flicking on the TV and so on. We’ve done these so often that the brain has a well developed neural pathway.
We feel confident that we will succeed in these tasks. We’ve done them so many times that we know them inside out. When we feel like this we just operate on auto-pilot and so our attention can drift.
In social situations this enables your attention to be on the conversation and so you naturally have something to say.
What’s happening though, is that your shyness is inhibiting you from talking naturally. This is stunting your neural pathway. It’s as if there is an obstacle stopping you from going past a certain point. As a result you don’t get enough practice in talking to make it automatic. It still seems new… so your attention is focused on the task… and therefore you don’t have enough mental energy to fully be in the conversation.
The solution then is to gain lots and lots of practice in talking to new people. This will help in building confidence.
However you are in a Catch 22 situation because every time you are in the situation you freeze, which just makes it harder for next time.
There is a way around this. As far as your brain is concerned, there is no difference between what you imagine and what you do. So you can have imaginary conversations over and over again with various new people.
Picture all kinds of social environments where you confidently express yourself freely. Practice… practice… and more practice.
In time you will literally train your mind until it works on auto-pilot. Then your attention is free to follow the conversation and you’ll have something to say.
However my philosophy is that when you solve a problem on the superficial level… it will probably reoccur sooner or later in another form. So here’s what I think is really causing this.
That you used the word insecure describes the problem perfectly. We all have some kind of answer to the question of what life is all about.
I think most people’s view of life is of them as being placed in a cosmic Doll’s House. In the sense that they think of the world as being solid, unchanging and unaffected by them. Therefore they feel small, weak and insignificant, by comparison. If life doesn’t go so well… they begin to wonder if they have been put in the wrong room… if they don’t fit in.
Hence they feel insecure, because they don’t feel as if they belong there. They don't feel an organic part of it.
Yet the laws of physics tell us that every action by you will affect the whole of the planet. If the flap of a butterfly’s wing can create change halfway across the world… what changes must you be causing?
You aren’t in the wrong place… you are where you’re meant to be. And the world is exactly however you see it… as a result of how you and the other six billion individuals living in it are thinking. If you change… the world will change in response to you.
With this kind of philosophy that has you as an integral part of the world, you feel more integrated in and so the question of insecurity becomes far less likely. And so you have a more sound basis to work on building confidence.

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Life at stake.:

The remorseless bloodshed, silent tears of our distressed sisters, helplessness of our esteemed brothers towards the barbaric happenings aren’t enough to awake the Muslim nation from a dreadful slumber??

Thousands of Muslims were martyred in the cold-blooded massacre of innocent lives, thousands others lost the hope to live, but not a single Muslim country came forward to support them! why? Are we are weak? Or is it our insensitivity towards the bizarre happenings that’s stopping us?

Don’t they have the right to live? Or aren’t they willing to lead a prosperous life without the fear of being killed?

And what actually are we doing to put an end to this inhuman act? Just discussing it on public forums or penning down our so-called sympathetic feelings?

They don’t need our discussions, they need our actions!

They don’t need our sympathies, they need our support!

Just giving out statements and condemning the situation wont make a difference, they need our hand!

It is the tyranny of the Muslim nation that’s ruthlessly killing the innocent Palestinians. In spite of the vicious attitude of the west, our Muslim leaders are willing to have a friendly talk with those who actually are our worst enemies!

The Jews and the western countries are not to be fully blamed for the whole scenario because we Muslims are playing a vital role in this situation.

If today we unite and stand together, no power of the world will be able to defeat us!

The least we can do now is to boycott foreign brands, it is where they are getting the financial support from, if we boycott their products they will end up being nowhere!

Our leaders might be mercenary but we still are compassionate, it might be the only help we could give our Palestinian brothers at this age. Something is better then nothing; we don’t want to be a part of this carnage, do we?

It’s high time that we should all join together and do something, protesting against brutalism wont help, if today we don’t unite and take measures, we definitely will have to bear the brunt in the upcoming days, we might face the same scenario. Wake up before it gets late!

They need us. We need them; we are nothing without each other! Come together before it gets late! Before it gets time for us to take fright for our lives!

Save them, save yourself!

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